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I never threw a party until I was in my late 30s. I was always afraid people wouldn’t show up, or, even worse, that they would show up and quickly want to leave. It felt like this particular fate could not be risked, which meant party-throwing was off the table. Other people could throw parties I guess, but I could […]
6 months ago

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How to Start Doing the Things You Daydream About

I forget who pointed this out, but Netflix has a subtle feature where it periodically tries to inspire you to get off the couch and live the life you really want. Whenever an episode of the show you’re watching ends, and the next is queueing up, there’s a moment in which the screen goes black, allowing you to glimpse your […]

4 days ago 8 votes
The Best Things in Life Don’t Make Themselves Happen

You spend your life doing things. Some of the things you do make themselves happen, and some don’t. Sweeping the floor, even if you don’t love doing it, will eventually make itself happen, because you’ll get annoyed by walking through filth every day. Same with things like getting groceries, sleeping, taking out the garbage, and getting dressed. Whether or not […]

2 weeks ago 12 votes
Managing Life is About Managing Friction

Bananas used to be a lot more difficult to eat than they are now. The seeds were huge and plentiful, and ran throughout the flesh of the fruit, which itself was starchier, stringier, and less sweet. Other foods were similarly obtuse. Watermelons, for example — instead of having contiguous pink flesh throughout, the good part was hiding in small, seed-riddled […]

a month ago 17 votes
What’s Taking Up Your Mental Bandwidth Right Now?

Just as your eyeballs are, your mind is always pointed at something, and it matters what it is. If you spent most of your day preoccupied with thoughts about a past failed relationship, for example, that makes for a different kind of day than one in which you’re preoccupied with solving a computer programming problem. Your mood, your actions, and […]

a month ago 23 votes
Fix Three Broken Things

Seneca pointed out that people tend to be reflexively stingy with their money, but almost comically wasteful with their time. There are at least two ways to take this. One is that Seneca thought he used his time better than you and I do, and maybe he did. Another interpretation is that everyday life, for most people, is an untapped […]

2 months ago 32 votes

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Communism and industrial imperialism

I have written before about how the “communist” revolution in the USSR was a scheme cooked up by the global criminocrats to impose on the Russian people their long-term authoritarian-industrial agenda of dispossession and enslavement.

yesterday 2 votes