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3 Principles for a Better Life

from Mark Manson [alt+shift+b] in life

I used to have a newsletter with the pitch, “3 Ideas That Can Change Your Life.” For years, I sent out emails in that format: three ideas—one, two, three—thank you, drive through. News flash: I've got a new weekly newsletter now called The Breakthrough where I send out ideas and give you homework for the week that can spark breakthroughs in your life. So consider this a throwback article. Except instead of three ideas that could change your life, these are three principles for a better life. I like principles because unlike rules or specific ideas, principles are designed to be applied loosely and broadly. Principles are things that are usually true, but sometimes don’t apply—usually helpful, but sometimes dumb as fuck. And unlike a rule or a piece of actionable advice, principles sit in the background, quietly informing your decisions and perspectives. In that way, when good, principles can be far more effective than any sort of “do this, do that” imperative. These are three of the most helpful principles I’ve come across to steer my life. I hope you find them helpful as well. So without further ado… Principle #1: …
13th Jun 2022

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With experience, people learn to break complex arguments down into modular pieces with a good “API”, in the sense that the assumptions and conclusions for each part are relatively simple. Somehow, AI has developed these amazing technical skills, while still being bad at creating abstractions So the arguments it gives are long and tangled and bewildering. This is what makes AI math seem so alien. 7. Now I know what you’re thinking. Maybe AI isn’t bad at creating abstractions. It’s just bad at creating abstractions that work for you, human with tiny organic brain. From a distance, that seems plausible. And it might be true to some degree. I have high-bandwidth access to a human brain. It’s not crazy to imagine that this gives me an advantage in predicting how a human brain would react to a given presentation of ideas. But still, I claim that current AI is objectively bad at creating abstractions, regardless of if the consumer of those abstractions is human or artificial. 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Of course, I’m not claiming that AI is intrinsically bad at writing or thinking or abstraction-making. It’s gotten better at all of these and I expect it will continue to do so. All I’m saying is that as of Autumn 2026, humans still have a lot to contribute, and it’s not just better exposition. 11. Did AI actually get much better at math in Autumn 2025? Or perhaps, in the grand scheme of things, human math ability falls into a narrow range? 12. Some people are responding to the new reality by gleefully using AI to generate lots of semi-OK-ish papers and puking them up on arXiv. I understand the incentives that drive this. In some sense, it seems like the logical response to the new reality. (After inventing cars, we started taking a lot more low-value trips.) But I don’t think this is socially useful, and I tend to think everyone will soon agree that this is embarrassing. But… I’m not sure. Maybe it is socially useful? And I find myself feeling vaguely jealous of the people who are wired this way, who instead of feeling blinkered, see opportunity and plunder. 13. Want an optimistic pro-AI, pro-progress take? OK. If I take my old “doing math” workflow, AI makes it strictly better. A lot better. It’s like having a hyper-conscientious intern that is smarter than me in many ways, works at incredible speed, and knows approximately everything. Yes, AI sucks at writing and making abstractions. But if I’m disciplined and try to mostly do the math “myself” while asking the AI for help, I can explore ideas much faster than before, make far fewer mistakes, and produce something just as clear as before, while developing just as much understanding. I can ask, “What happens if you do a Kofuni expansion?”, and get an answer instantly. I can ask for illustrations or interactive visualizations and see them instantly. Arguably, we’re incredibly lucky to be alive at this moment, when these new tools have opened up this new territory to explore. 14. And isn’t that what I wanted? Back in 2024, I bemoaned that what AI most seemed to struggle with was getting the facts straight: Perhaps the old science fiction robots were a projection of our fantasies. I want my style and voice to be precious and uncopyable. I want an AI assistant that will tirelessly hunt down facts while I provide creativity and panache and magic. But that’s not how it is. So we should remember: In a scenario where AI is useful but humans retain some comparative advantage, we might not like where that comparative advantage lies. At least with math, and at least for the moment, I get to be Kirk, while the AI is Spock. (Even with other types of writing, my impression is that since 2024, AI has improved more along Spock dimensions than along Kirk dimensions.) So that’s nice. 15. In the last few months, it frequently happens that a collaborator will use AI to generate something, and then send it to me and ask me to check if it’s useful. I can see why this seems reasonable. (Really, I do.) But when it happens a lot, one can’t help but wonder what the point of the human collaborator is. 16. On the other hand—with creative writing, my advice is not to use AI to write, at all. Ask questions if you want, but write every damned word yourself.3 With math, I don’t feel like such a hard line makes sense. It seems that creating something good still requires a lot of human involvement, to the point of agonizing over notation, repeatedly re-organizing things, and heavily editing individual sentences. Still, I find that if people make that effort, they can create something just as good as they could by hand, while still being perhaps 50% AI written.4 So I don’t mind if people send me “centaur math”, provided they take responsibility for the contents. The problem is that when working with AI, it takes constant paranoid vigilance to avoid letting things slip beyond your understanding. I often find myself wanting to awkwardly ask people, “OK, you obviously used AI to make this… which is OK… but how much of this do you vouch for? If we have a meeting to discuss it, will you crumble the moment I start asking questions?” 17. When I’m in abstraction-creation mode, I feel like I’m doing something intelligent. When yell at AI about bad notation and writing, I feel like I’m providing taste. But I often find myself giving feedback that seems incredibly basic. Things like: This is a mess, clean it up. Or: Do you need that assumption? Or: If you can’t solve this problem, why don’t you create a simpler version and try to solve it first? On the one hand, I guess a lot of what good human managers do amounts to giving very basic feedback. On the other hand, it’s hard to imagine that I have much durable advantage in doing this kind of thing. 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Other people will read and use my thing! I am advancing human progress.” You can still tell yourself that now. But you have to wonder, will anyone actually read your proof? Or will they just ask another AI to explain it to them? Will your proof help their AI explain it better? For how long? If you just waited a year, would some other AI produce that same proof independently? Alternatively, if you’re a normal person, you might think that LLMs still struggle with basic arithmetic? ↩ AI progress is so fast, compared to society’s ability to adjust, that we may never actually see what “the current equilibrium” looks like. ↩ This essay, if you’re wondering, was created by writing every damned word myself and not asking AI anything. ↩ You could have a whole debate about what that precentage means. It’s not the number of words written by AI that really matters, in my opinion, so much as who is responsible for the overall structure of the ideas. ↩

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