Dear Bear: how do I get over someone I thought was perfect for me? + what do I do if my friend is "too picky"?

+ matchmaking closes in two days

4 months ago

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+ weekly recs

4 months ago • 43 votes

always on your side

friendship is magic

4 months ago • 32 votes

grace

discernment without judgment

4 months ago • 28 votes

+ matchmaking results mostly out

4 months ago • 31 votes

present tense

Housekeeping: ask me Dear Bear questions here. The matchmaking results will be out in the next couple of days :)

4 months ago • 41 votes

60% of Gen Z wish they could return to a time before everybody was ‘plugged in'

yesterday • 2 votes

Fake Debates and Late Converts

Malcolm Gladwell's Trans Sports Apology and What It Tells Us About This Whole Debate

yesterday • 6 votes

Good tokens 2025-09-05

Items of interest

2 days ago • 4 votes

Just when you thought major labels couldn't get more stupid...

3 days ago • 5 votes

do i judge other writers?

the messy truth about writing “full-time,” and other answers to your questions (#2)

3 days ago • 4 votes