Our world treats information like it’s always good. More data, more content, more inputs — we want it all without thinking twice. To say that the last twenty-five years of culture have centered around info-maximalism wouldn’t be an exaggeration. I hope we’re coming to the end of that phase. More than ever before, it feels like we have to — that we just can’t go on like this. But the solution cannot come from within; it won’t be a better tool or even better information to get us out of this mess. It will be us, feeling and acting differently. Think about this comparison: Information is to wisdom what pornography is to real intimacy. I’m not here to moralize, so I compare to pornography with all the necessary trepidation. Without judgement, it’s my observation that pornography depicts physical connection while creating emotional distance. I think information is like that. There’s a difference between information and wisdom that hinges on volume. More information promises to show us more of reality, but too much of it can easily hide the truth. Information can be pornography — a simulation that, when consumed without limits, can weaken our ability to experience the real thing. When we feel overwhelmed by information — anxious and unable to process what we’ve already taken in — we’re realizing that “more” doesn’t help us find truth. But because we have also established information as a fundamental good in our society, failure to keep up with it, make sense of it, and even profit from it feels like a personal moral failure. There is only one way out of that. We don’t need another filter. We need a different emotional response to information. We should not only question why our accepted spectrum of emotional response to information — in the general sense — is mostly limited to the space between curiosity and desire, but actively develop a capacity for disgust when it becomes too much. And it has become too much. Some people may say that we just need better information skills and tools, not less information. But this misses how fundamentally our minds need space and time to turn information into understanding. When every moment is filled with new inputs, we can’t fully absorb, process, and reflect upon what we’ve consumed. Reflection, not consumptions, creates wisdom. Reflection requires quiet, isolation, and inactivity. Some people say that while technology has expanded over the last twenty-five years, culture hasn’t. If they needed a good defense for that idea, well, I think this is it: A world without idleness is a truly world without creativity. I’m using loaded moral language here for a purpose — to illustrate an imbalance in our information-saturated culture. Idleness is a pejorative these days, though it needn’t be. We don’t refer to compulsive information consumption as gluttony, though we should. And if attention is our most precious resource — as an information-driven economy would imply — why isn’t its commercial exploitation condemned as avarice? As I ask these questions I’m really looking for where individuals like you and me have leverage. If our attention is our currency, then leverage will come with the capacity to not pay it. To not look, to not listen, to not react, to not share. And as has always been true of us human beings, actions are feelings echoed outside the body. We must learn not just to withhold our attention but to feel disgust at ceaseless claims to it.

How elimination, curation, and optimization can help us see through the technological mirror. Technology functions as both mirror and lens — reflecting our self-image while simultaneously shaping how we see everything else. This metaphor of recursion, while perhaps obvious once stated, is one that most people instinctively resist. Why this resistance? I think it is because the observation is not only about a kind of recursion, but it is itself recursive. The contexts in which we discuss technology’s distorting effects tend to be highly technological — internet-based forums, messaging, social media, and the like. It’s difficult to clarify from within, isn’t it? When we try to analyze or critique a technology while using it to do so, it’s as if we’re critiquing the label from inside the bottle. And these days, the bottle is another apt metaphor; it often feels like technology is something we are trapped within. And that’s just at the surface — the discussion layer. It goes much deeper. It’s astounding to confront the reality that nearly all the means by which we see and understand ourselves are technological. So much of modern culture is in its artifacts, and the rest couldn’t be described without them. There have been oral traditions, of course, but once we started making things, they grew scarce. For a human in the twenty-first century, self awareness, cultural identification, and countless other aspects of existence are all, in some way or another, technological. It’s difficult to question the mirror’s image when we’ve never seen ourselves without it. The interfaces through which we perceive ourselves and interpret the world are so integrated into our experience that recognizing their presence, let alone their distorting effects, requires an almost impossible perspective shift. Almost impossible. Because of course it can be done. In fact, I think it’s a matter of small steps evenly distributed throughout a normal lifestyle. It’s not a matter of secret initiation or withdrawing from society, though I think it can sometimes feel that way. How, then, can one step outside the mirror’s view? I’ve found three categories of action particularly helpful: Elimination One option we always have is to simply not use a thing. I often think about how fascinating it is that to not use a particular technology in our era seems radical — truly counter-cultural. The more drastic rejecting any given technology seems, the better an example it is of how dependent we have become upon it. Imagine how difficult a person’s life would be today if they were to entirely reject the internet. There’s no law in our country against opting out of the internet, but the countless day-to-day dependencies upon the it nearly amount to a cumulative obligation to be connected to it. Nevertheless, a person could do it. Few would, but they could. This kind of “brute force” response to technology has become a YouTube genre — the “I Went 30 Days Without ____” video is quite popular. And this is obviously because of how much effort it requires to eliminate even comparatively minor technologies from one’s life. Not the entire internet, but just social media, or just streaming services, or just a particular device or app. Elimination isn’t easy, but I’m a fan of it. The Amish are often thought of as simply rejecting modernity, but that’s not an accurate description of what actually motivates their way of life. Religion plays a foundational role, of course, but each Amish community works together to decide upon many aspects of how they live, including what technologies they adopt. Their guiding principle is whether a thing or practice strengthens their community. And their decision is a collective one. I find that inspiring. When I reject a technology, I do so because I either don’t feel I need it or because I feel that it doesn’t help me live the way I want to live. It’s not forever, and it isn’t with judgement for anyone else but me. These are probably my most radical eliminations: most social media (I still reluctantly have a LinkedIn profile), streaming services (except YouTube), all “smart home” devices of any kind, smartwatches, and for the last decade and counting, laptops. Don’t @ me because you can’t ;) Curation What I have in mind here is curation of information, not of technologies. Since it is simply impossible to consume all information, we all curate in some way, whether we’re aware of it or not. For some, though, this might actually be a matter of what technologies they use — for example, if a person only uses Netflix, then they only see what Netflix shows them. That’s curation, but Netflix is doing the work. However, I think it’s a good exercise to do a bit more curation of one’s own. I believe that if curation is going to be beneficial, it must involve being intentional about one’s entire media diet — what information we consume, from which sources, how frequently, and why. This last part requires the additional work of discerning what motivates and funds various information sources. Few, if any, are truly neutral. The reality is that as information grows in volume, the challenge of creating useful filters for it increases to near impossibility. Information environments operated on algorithms filter information for you based upon all kinds of factors, some of which align with your preferences and many of which don’t. There are many ways to avoid this, they are all more inconvenient than a social media news feed, and it is imperative that more people make the effort to do them. They range from subscribing to carefully-chosen sources, to using specialized apps, feed readers, ad and tracking-blocking browsers and VPNs to control how information gets to you. I recommend all of that and a constant vigilance because, sadly, there is no filter that will only show you the true stuff. Optimization Finally, there’s optimization — the fine-tuning you can do to nearly anything and everything you use. I’ve become increasingly active in seeking out and adjusting even the most detailed of application and device settings, shaping my experiences to be quieter, more limited, and aligned with my intentions rather than the manufacturers’ defaults. I spent thirty minutes nearly redesigning my entire experience in Slack in ways I had never been aware were even possible until recently. It’s made a world of difference to me. Just the other day, I found a video that had several recommendations for altering default settings in Mac OS that have completely solved daily annoyances I have just tolerated for years. I am always adjusting the way I organize files, the apps I use, and the way I use them because I think optimization is always worthwhile. And if I can’t optimize it, I’m likely to eliminate it. None of these approaches offers perfect protection from technological mediation, but together they create meaningful space for more direct control over your experience. But perhaps most important is creating physical spaces that remain relatively untouched by digital technology. I often think back to long trips I took before the era of ubiquitous computing and connection. During a journey from Providence to Malaysia in 2004, I stowed my laptop and cell phone knowing they’d be useless to me during 24 hours of transit. There was no in-cabin wifi, no easy way to have downloaded movies to my machine in advance, no place to even plug anything in. I spent most of that trip looking out the window, counting minutes, and simply thinking — a kind of unoccupied time that has become nearly extinct since then. What makes technological discernment in the digital age particularly challenging is that we’re drowning in a pit of rope where the only escape is often another rope. Information technology is designed to be a nearly wraparound lens on reality; it often feels like the only way to keep using a thing is to use another thing that limits the first thing. People who know me well have probably heard me rant for years about phone cases — “why do I need a case for my case?!” These days, the sincere answer to many peoples’ app overwhelm is another app. It’s almost funny. And yet, I do remain enthusiastic about technology’s creative potential. The ability to shape our world by making new things is an incredible gift. But we’ve gone overboard, creating new technologies simply because we can, without a coherent idea of how they’ll shape the world. This makes us bystanders to what Kevin Kelly describes as “what technology wants” — the agenda inherent in digital technology that makes it far from neutral. What we ultimately seek isn’t escape from technology itself, but recovery of certain human experiences that technology tends to overwhelm: sustained attention, silence, direct observation, unstructured thought, and the sense of being fully present rather than partially elsewhere. The most valuable skill in our digital age isn’t technical proficiency but technological discernment — the wisdom to know when to engage, when to disconnect, and how to shape our tools to serve our deeper human needs rather than allowing ourselves to be shaped by them. “It does us no good to make fantastic progress if we do not know how to live with it.” – Thomas Merton

Back in 2012 when my first (and only) book was published, a friend reacted by exclaiming, “You wrote a book?!?” and then added, “oh yeah…you don’t have kids.” I was put off by that statement. I played it cool, but my unspoken reaction was, “Since when is having kids or not the difference between one’s ability to write a book?” I was proud of my accomplishment, and his reaction seemed to communicate that anyone could do such a thing if they didn’t have other priorities. Thirteen years and two children later, I’ve had plenty of opportunities to reflect upon that moment. I’ve come to a surprising conclusion: he was kind of right. My first child was perhaps ten minutes old before I began learning that my time would never be spent or managed the same way again. I was in the delivery room holding her while my phone vibrated in my pocket because work emails were coming in. Normally, I’d have responded right away. Not anymore. The constraints of parenthood are real and immediate and it takes some time to get used to the pinch. But they’re also transformative in unexpected ways. These days, my measure of how I spend my time comes down to a single idea: I will not make my children orphans to my ambition. If I prioritize anything over them, I require a very good reason which cannot benefit me alone. Yet this transformation runs deeper than simply having less time day to day. Entering your forties has a profound effect on your perception of your entire lifespan. Suddenly, you find that memories actual decades old are of things you experienced as an adult. The combination of parenthood and midlife can create a powerful perspective shift that makes you more intentional about what truly matters. There are times when I feel that I am able to do less than I did in the past, but what I’ve come to realize is that I am actually doing more of the things that matter to me. A more acute focus on limited time results in using that time much more intentionally. I’m more productive today than I was in 2012, but it’s not because of time, it’s because of choices. The constraints of parenthood haven’t just changed what I choose to do with my time, but what I create as well. Having less time to waste means I levy a more critical judgment of whether something is working or worthwhile to pursue much earlier in the process than I did before. In the past – if I’m dreadfully honest — I took pride in being the guy who started early and stayed late. Today, I take pride in producing the best thing I can. The less time that takes, the better. But parenthood has also reminded me of the pleasures and benefits of creativity purely as a means of thinking aloud, learning, exploring, and play. There’s a beautiful tension in this evolution - becoming both more critically discerning and more playfully exploratory at the same time. My children have inadvertently become my teachers, reconnecting me with the foundational joy of making without judgment or expectation. This integration of play and discernment has enriched my professional work. My creative output is far more diverse than it was before. The playful exploration I engage in with my children has opened new pathways in my professional thinking, allowing me to approach design problems from fresh perspectives. I’ve found that the best creative work feels effortless to viewers when the creation process itself was enjoyable. This enjoyment manifests for creators as what psychologists call a “flow state” - that immersive experience where time seems to vanish and work feels natural and intuitive. The more I embrace playful exploration with ideas, techniques, and tools, the more easily I can access this flow state in my professional work. My friend’s comment, while perhaps a bit lacking in tact, touched on a reality about the economics of attention and time. The book I wrote wasn’t just the product of writing skills - it was also the product of having the temporal and mental space to create it. (I’m not sure I’ll have that again, and if I do, I’m not sure a book is what I’ll choose to use it for.) What I didn’t understand then was that parenthood wouldn’t end my creative life, but transform it into something richer, more focused, and ultimately more meaningful. The constraints haven’t diminished my creativity but refined it.

On the Ambient Entertainment Industrial Complex “All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” Pascal’s observation from the 17th century feels less like historical philosophy and more like a diagnosis of our current condition. The discomfort with idleness that Pascal identified has evolved from a human tendency into a technological ecosystem designed to ensure we never experience it. Philosophers and thinkers throughout history worried about both the individual and societal costs of idleness. Left to our own devices — or rather, without devices — we might succumb to vice or destructive thoughts. Or worse, from society’s perspective, too many idle people might destabilize the social order. Kierkegaard specifically feared that many would become trapped in what he called the “aesthetic sphere” of existence — a life oriented around the pursuit of novel experiences and constant stimulation rather than ethical commitment and purpose. He couldn’t have imagined how prophetic this concern would become. What’s changed isn’t human nature but the infrastructure of distraction available to us. Entertainment was once bounded — a novel read by candlelight, a play attended on Saturday evening, a television program watched when it aired. It occupied specific times and spaces. It was an event. Today, entertainment is no longer an event but a condition. It’s ambient, pervasive, constant. The bright rectangle in our pocket ensures that no moment need be empty of stimulus. Waiting in line, sitting on the train, even using the bathroom — all are opportunities for consumption rather than reflection or simply being. More subtly, the distinction between necessary and unnecessary information has collapsed. News, social media feeds, workplace communication tools — all blend information we might need with content designed primarily to capture and hold our attention. The result is a sense that all of this constant consumption isn’t entertainment at all, but somehow necessary. Perhaps most concerning is what happens as this self-referential entertainment ecosystem evolves. The relationship between entertainment and experience has always had a push-pull kind of tension; experience has been entertainment’s primary source material, but, great entertainment is, itself, an experience that becomes just as affective background as anything else. But what happens when the balance is tipped? When experience and entertainment are so inseparable that the source material doubles back on itself in a recursion of ever dwindling meaning? The system turns inward, growing more detached from lived reality with each iteration. I think we are already living in that imbalance. The attention economy is, according to the classic law of supply and demand, bankrupt — with an oversupply of signal produced for a willful miscalculation of demand. No one has the time or interest to take in all that is available. No one should want to. And yet the most common experience today is an oppressive and relentless FOMO you might call Sisyphean if his boulder accumulated more boulders with every trip up and down the hill. We’re so saturated in signal that we cannot help but think continually about the content we have not consumed as if it is an obligatory list of chores we must complete. And that ambient preoccupation with the next or other thing eats away at whatever active focus we put toward anything. It’s easy to cite as evidence the normalization of watching TV while side-eying Slack on an open laptop while scrolling some endless news feed on a phone — because this is awful and all of us would have thought so just a few years ago — but the worst part about it is the fact that while gazing at three or more screens, we are also fragmenting our minds to oblivion across the infinite cloud of information we know is out there, clamoring for attention. Pascal feared what happened in the empty room. We might now reasonably fear what happens when the room is never empty — when every potential moment of idleness or reflection is filled with content designed to hold our gaze just a little longer. The philosophical question of our time is not how to fix the attention economy, but how to end it altogether. We simply don’t have to live like this.