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Questionable Advice: The Trap of The Premature Senior

from charity.wtf [alt+shift+b] in programming

I’ve been at my current job for three years, and I am suddenly, accidentally, the most senior engineer on the team. I spend my days handling things like bootcamps, mentoring, architecture, and helping other engineers carve off meaningful work. This has taken a huge toll on the kind of work I want to do as […]
1st Nov 2020

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